Divorce

I have been hearing a lot about betrayl, adultery and divorce lately. It seems like every day this week I have heard a new story about it. Everytime I've hear a new story it hits me hard emotionally. It hurts me to even imagine the pain that each of these situations is causing.

Matthew 19:5-6 says:
‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.”

Jared and I took these verses very seriously when we got married. During our premarital counseling we both agreed that divorce would never ever be brought up. It's not an option for us, no matter what. I don't think that makes our marriage any easier than any one else's. But I do think it makes us more committed to our marriage. We know we each have to continually give 100% to our marriage to make it work.

So many people enter marriage with the thought 'if it doesn't work we can always get divorced' in the back of their heads. To me this isn't 100% committment.

A few years ago the actress Tori Spelling left her then husband of a year for a man that she has. When asked about the divorce, she simply said "you can't choose who you love." This statement bothered me greatly. I don't think of love as only a feeling, it's a choice and committment. It's something you do more than something you feel. I choose to love Jared and I work hard to make sure he knows that I love him.

I'm so thankful to God for the absolutely wonderful husband He has provided me with. I couldn't have imagined a better one if I tried. We have a great marriage, but we have this amazing marriage because God is at the center of it and He reminds us that it takes each of us giving 100% to it to make it great.